Control Over Ones Fate on the Path of the Wise
1000's of years the Bones of the Earth take on shapes carved
wind, sand and rain ... So to .... do we take our shape,
the elements in our lives,
largest force of which
Rock has no say in how its molded by the stresses placed on it,
merely responds, to each demand
on the other hand, Can take a hand in our eventual shape ,
Destiny if you will , it is in our hands
make it fly or not.
And the hardest thing to learn
this simple truth, that we Are in control of it
we can control how we react to everything
often, we feel like we are the rock, being whittled down
the winds of ill fortune, the sand in our eyes of pain
rain of tears that we shed when we are hurt
we Helpless before the onslaught of demands on us ?
don't think so
why not you say ..? What the heck can I do about it ?
Hear of Asking for Help ?
like a simple enough thing doesn't it ?
Yet, all too often it's the last thing we humans do
will suffer for years .. in pain .. over all manner of things
than say even once, HELP ! I don't understand, I'm confused,
don't know what to do, I ......... ? Ya get the picture :)
Ok, true enough but what's this got to do with walking the Path you ask ?
about sharing of the self and your burdens, with each other,
The Great Mother and All Father,
reach out once in a while and say
I am human, and I need "
so hard to say is it ?
, when is the last time you did it ?
to stop and think about that one didn't you ? :)
feel like the Lone Ranger, so do we all
we reach the age of adult, the concept of asking for help
goes out the window, and the more educated we are and the older we get
less likely we are to ask for help
the feces hits the fan, or just because we need,
without a crisis to hand that we are dealing with
why is this not a good thing for a walker of the Way ?
over-burdening of the self, makes one unfit to be of much use to anyone
any reason. And that includes the Mothers Work
the tasks she sets us
can you help others, if you are spending all your time playing catch up
in your own life,
you are trying to do it the hard way ?
supposed to be an independent lot
stand on our own two feet most assuredly , however
does not mean make like your Wonder Woman
Superman ... Up Up and Away .. Yeah right !
somebody steps on your cape :)
a teacher this ones real hard,
students have a nasty habit of assuming that because your the teacher,
your some kind of paragon who never makes mistakes,
never, ever, Needs help.
try to live up to that, HA ! At least until you get smart
realize it's an impossibility ... and simply turn that
expectation of theirs, into a another lesson,
the short end of that one, even before I became a teacher
the Path, just by being the person everybody came to,
never occurred to them, that once in a while
I might need them ..
what's to do, to keep you in top form and not unduly burdened
the slings and arrows of mis-fortune and have some control over
your own fate
a free hand to Work ?
of the below work for both Your day to day life ,
the Great Work as laid out for you ... So
things out, nothing will mess up your life worse
being caught with your britches down at a critical moment
down and figure out what's going on in your life
all the possible variations and issues that might come up
you have such a list, go over it and ask the
what would I do if " ? and if there are no ready answer, then ask
out what they did, there is no need to re-invent
wheel all the time, use the benefit
the best laid plans of mice and men to quote the Bard
go awry, have backups.. B C D .. etc. etc.. to however
you think you might need, then add one more
for good measure. Including asking a person to be backup
take over, if your not able to do it
is not predictable you have to be ready to bend
circumstances when it suddenly changes directions on you
not, your gonna be standing there, trying to figure it out ,
the train coming down the track ,
one you didn't count on .... runs over your foot !
order to make the above plans A ----- Z you need to know what to do,
you have situation X and you don't know enough, time to ask for help
learn more, from others who know. Network , join a news group,
it takes, but get the information
you need to make intelligent informed choices
try to do the impossible, which is, Do everything at once !
simple right..? hehehehe yeah it does :)
too often we don't do this, our mind makes the irrational demand
we should be able to do everything at the same time ,
we try to do just that .. BUZZ ..
is a ticket to therapy, the hospital or the Morgue
most successful people in any endeavor be it the Path or Wall street
this simple fact, delegate things, give over some of the task to others,
try to do too much
we not trust enough that the other will do it right ?
we so poor spirited that we need all the "Glory" of accomplishment
be by our own hand ..?
person to whom you delegate should be someone who
CAN do it better than you, But even if not,
goal is to get the job done, not whose name is on it
Know when to say NO
can do that ya say ..?.. :) Yeah sure ya can, Only one in 10 can do this
feeling guilty about it or making excuses.
when to say no.. when to say enough !
to tell those who come to you with demands that sorry .. Not today ...
is not selfishness, it is the core of giving, knowing when
wait for the Well that is you, to fill up again ..
is helping yourself and them to a high degree
Give a gift , to you once in a while
often we who walk the Path are very giving people
everybody else, but tend to fall a little flat when it comes to ourselves
took me years to learn this one and I still screw it up
time to time ... ! )
is not healthy. What ? Is everyone in the World
of your Love and care, except you ? :)
Well Dippers of the World must remember
it's allowed to Dip from the Well of Caring for others forever ..
the Well Dipper must remember to take drink for themselves
Or no one gets any, as the Well dipper
Just fell flat on their face from thirst !
often what robs us of our own control are things over which
Have little or no control, What I mean is this
you "do" anything about the situation that's driving you bats ?
than how YOU respond to it ?
have no control over the actions of another
do we have any say over the actions of life
Prayer of Serenity says, Help me to change what I can,
accept what I cannot, and be wise enough to know which is which :)
sure which is which ?
for help, talk to others an see what they think
a Goal to reach towards, everyday must have meaning
why bother getting outa bed ?
is more a waste of time than to spend days, weeks, years doing nothing
want of any kind of Goal you want to reach. It does not need to be something
there needs to be something, or we flounder,
about aimlessly and wasting the days of our lives
you control nothing ? You can't right ?.. So without Goals
reach for there IS nothing for you to control,
action to take .. Right or Wrong do something ..
sure how to set a Goal ? .. A REAL one .. Ask .. get help
information is out there for the taking..
ya have to do is reach out your hand
Don't waste your time over Trivia
too often we hustle and bustle our way through our day
end up tired and stressed at Days end, and look back to realize
didn't really DO anything ! Yeah we went to work,
did the housework, we did all the needful things
make up the maintain aspect of our lives ..
needful as those things are, they don't matter much
the Long run of improvements we want to make,
on things that Do matter
are things we do to maintain where we are,
and anything that does that will do
having someone else do it
since we Do spend so much time at it,
we tend to make it more important in our minds, than it really is.
that we can justify the sheer amount of time and energy
have used on it is why
Otherwise, we would resent it having to do it at all .
we make it more than it is and give more time and energy to it
the more we do this, the less we have of either time or energy
do things that really matter
off the Merry go round .. It's a job .. a means to make money ,
you happen to like it and it does good for the world to boot great ,
it's still just a job .......
IT IS NOT YOUR LIFE ..
is the housework, or any one of a 1000 other tasks
take up ones time and energy
the lot of it
not worthy of commanding your life
.. to sum up
some room in there for the things that pop up
yourself to take off the stress of uncertainty
Take time off once in a while ...
things out, many hands make for light work
No once in a while
don't even think about feeling guilty about it
some of that Love and care to you
at life for what it is, not what you would have it be
clear Goals in your mind and in sight
let your life be trickled away by meaningless
you can do all that , THEN you will have some control
your life and your destiny
be in shape to Walk the Path, of the Wise :)
your hands on the reins of your life be gentle
YOU are the horse you ride
to One and All
the Right Path on the Way of the Mother