Way of a Woman*
be a Woman in today's World
to be Confused
Gender roles, Identity,
Placement in Society
are not alone as the Men are there too..
Identity and the Pagan Path in the USA
short collection of thoughts on Pagans and gender/sexual roles
the current year to be talking about the role of women
a bit out of place.. Especially from me : >)
in reality there is very good reason to do so...
both genders are undergoing
of the most confusing times in history
the 60s when I was still underage, the movement to toss gender roles
continues today. It really started long before that
I will skip the history lesson
no mistake I feel that the whole concept of any
role in life
to one gender or another to be nothing short
( I will be polite ) silliness carried over from another time.
time when It at least made some sense.
in the current day world it has no place.
what am I talking about then? On the Pagan Path there is little
one gender and the next... or should be..
why does this need to be said at all..? Read on if you will :)
the rules for gender ID, got tossed out the window it was not done
with everybody's consent. So there was much confusion, Many births
new ways to replace the old where tried.. and failed for the most part.
old insistence that certain traits where female and others male, persist
now they are underground, unspoken of, but used,
as it is not PC to say out loud, that such and such behavior
Feminine or Masculine.
this page.. its very colorful, flowery, in a word fem ... or is it?
point in fact, if you where speaking to a Samurai
he would look at you
you had lost it. As he would be proud to have a Kimono
such a wonderful pattern, the flowers would please his senses
Chalice he would be proud to drink from.
the Samurai were far from feminine, so where does that fit in?
it fits because they understood the beauty of a fine blade and the
of a tea ceremony
poetry and were considered MORE of a man,
less for such knowledge.
pattern of cross over, of what we consider male and female traits,
common to many other places/times on Earth as well.
quick glance at social history will prove my point.
current beliefs, in my opinion, are more modern in origin
we would like to think.. they are Mostly European
became, by extension American.
about that one for a moment
you will see what I am getting at
where does a great deal
the current day lore for Paganism come from...? Europe
mind, I said the whole of Europe not just England )
with that or not as you will, but if you back track
of the current day texts available ( other than those written
the last twenty years and they are based on them too, loosely,
the writers studied the European texts,
almost had to, check the references
most modern texts, then go find the book it refers to) you will find
point of origin to be somewhere in Europe.
therefore, where did we adopt our current concept of gender roles.. ?
place.. as much as we Americans like to think of ourselves
something different, we are, in our beginnings at least, Europeans.
Unless one is a Native American :) The influx of immigrants
around the world adds to this mix of culture and confusion
regard to Gender Identity.
aside the effects on our day to day thinking
has left us with some very biased thinking with regard
gender and sexuality on the Pagan paths. We relate certain rites to
to Men. Our practices of gender roles in the mundane world has become
our practice of the path. Like the term Witch,
first thing that comes to mind is a woman.. the term Witch is a title,
a gender identity.. it applies to both men and women
practice the Craft.
am a woman, I am a Witch, I am a High Priestess, see even there we do
but we have not come up with a genderless word yet or think we haven't,
is an occupation title not a gender role too, but people would REALLY
at me funny, if I called myself a Pagan Priest
an ordained minister too and that's another one
calls to mind a gender in that case, Male.
don't even think there is such a word as ministeress ?
am a Mother, A wife, A daughter, A grandmother,
Mother in Law, An Aunt etc. etc. etc.. all of these things have
I don't fit most of them. They are like a shoe that's too tight.
was raised in the 60s by a Mother who was
still is one of the most independent women I know,
before it was cool. :) She set the tone,
has played for the rest of my life. With a few sour notes here and there
they are MY doing.
am more at home, at Home Depot than the Mall, and think getting a skill
my Birthday is wonderful. All this and more has made me something
a freak of nature to many people for most of my life.
to this, the fact I am Bi-Sexual and it evens things out for most people
they are not so confused. Why? Because they figure
why I have so many so-called Male traits,
is utter Horse Pucky, but it makes some people happy.:)
practice of my Faith, my role would be considered feminine,
describe myself as the Mothers servant. Proud to be so :)
a submissive role is expected of a woman is it not ?
Ha.. Yeah Right..
for the Great Mother of us all do I bow my head or bend knee
was not always so, but one must learn to serve..
one is to lead. So such lessons must be learned.
the Mother of us all expects us Man and Woman to be
were does the idea come from, as has often been said to me,
to be a Priestess I must follow the path of the nurturing Mother.
Great Mother is also Kali,
the Warrior with the
kiss of the blade, Freya
Free who chose her way as she willed it, Bridget
who was both
and poet, and on and on and on..
Face of the Goddess and the God you see
yet another possible aspect of the self.
pagans as a group tend to favor the Mother more,
out of rebellion in many ways as "God" the father image given us
hell fire and brimstone is not our image of God
is the God?
God, which again is a job title not a gender Identity ...
a more kind 'Father', image
more realistic to my way of thinking. However...
and Female in all of the world
each and everything has two sides.
cleave to one and ignore the other
to cut yourself off from half of the experience.
I came to it and after I had to move and left it,
Coven was run by two men. Both quite Gay and proud of it.
who was attracted to our Coven ? Other Gays and Bi-sexual's of course,
we welcomed them. But where were all the "normals" ?
afraid of us, thankfully, but feared they would not fit in.
did not ask or seek admittance. So sad that our brothers and sisters
deprive themselves of the company of others on account of
assigned role that didn't exist, then or now.
are androgynous, all of us, the divine force is androgynous
we humans can't think very well in those terms
we break it down into manageable parts.
does this assign a Gender to the Divine?
happened to the Feminine of God
arrogance to even try to assume that they are locked into a role by
our issue, not theirs. It's easier on us to think
of the divine
Father, but we must not make the mistake of assigning our limitations
sexual gender, to the aspects of divine force.
will Hail the Great Mother and Father all my days,
in my heart I know that it is all one and only MY limitations
allow me to look at it as "ALL", the ONE , the Way,
the Feminine.. but what of the God ?