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The Meaning of Loss in our Lives
our lives we have to Cope with all kinds of losses
Like the process of making a fine blade,
its heated, folded, spindled, mutilated, beat on, taken from flame to ice water,
and pummeled about until its ready to collapse .. then its fit to use :)
To make a blade like a Samurai sword,
the steel is folded over 200 times ! They were and are
the finest blades ever made.
Tempering its called, all the slings and arrows of ill fate ..
are a tempering process.
I mean think about it, how much would we really grow
if everything was happy happy all the time ?
Not to mention the fact, that the first time it did hit the fan ..
we would fall apart, watched this one happen
to someone very dear to me.
She always made good grades in high school
.. no challenge.. B's and A's etc.
Hit College and boom .... fell flat on her face
Flunked out of several of her classes
the first semester, why doesn't matter
What does matter is,
she didn't know HOW to fail, didn't know how to cope,
as she had no experience with it ,
on that level anyway, it rattled her big time
Her confidence in herself took a dive
She did not accept that this simply meant,
for the first time in her life she failed a class, to her it meant
I am a failure !
Word of note here..You make mistakes
It does NOT mean YOU are a mistake!
Now ...Does this mean we should enjoy it when Life turns to muck
on us.. ? Of Course NOT :)
Unless your Masochistic .. !
But it does mean, we must take these setbacks and Losses and Learn the
"lessons of adversity" as the Rune/Constraint would say, as that is the point here
There is also this .... If we lose at anything ,
it means that we were Trying to do something
It's a Hell of a lot better to attempt to do something and fail,
than sit about, doing nothing for fear of failure,
as we fail in the worst way possible
As we fail to live
Or this, which I have said before
How can one presume to advise another,
if you Haven't " been there done that"
and that includes the fact we have
messed up just like they did,
even if its not the exact way they just did
We at least have some reference point and credibility.
I Mean .... Why should they listen to you ?..
If you don't know what it really means to stand in their shoes ?
So How to Cope .. ? :)
Acceptance of responsibility. A real biggie on the Pagan paths,
if life just jumped up and bit you in the butt. Ask yourself,
did I lay myself open for that ? If the answer is yes,
you have some growing and learning to do,
So that does not happen again
If it's just an act of Fate that just grabbed your heart and mangled it..
then weep, take time to sorrow, then get over yourself !
Sounds harsh doesn't it ? :) It's not, what is more harsh
to tell someone to chin up and get over it ?
Or watch them hash and re-hash their pain and loss for the rest of their days ?
That's not something I would wish on my worst enemy, much less someone
I cared about and that includes myself !
So .. Accept .. Learn and get on with it
is how one copes with any loss. Anything less and your missing
the whole point of the lesson :)
May the Visits of Loss and his companions be few
and your burdens no heavier than your will can bear
And may you always have a friendly Ear to tell it to
or shoulder to Cry on when you need one
Blessings to One and All
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